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You’ve heard of the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
I have no doubt that men and dating have driven you mad before.
“Why does he look at my profile but never write to me?”
“Why does he hook up with me but not want to be my boyfriend?”
“Why does he tell me he loves me but treats me so poorly?”
These mixed messages are the hardest thing to take — and it’s hard to find any measure of objectivity when the subject is so close to home.
Hell, it’s even a relationship cliché: “Don’t try to fix her. Just listen to her.”
But I have to admit something that’s hard for me to say out loud:
I sometimes feel like I’m going crazy, too.
As a dating coach since 2003, I know exactly what to expect when I post something on my blog, or share a quote on Facebook — and yet I’m always surprised when I rub people the wrong way.
The very women I’m trying to help — the very women I’ve devoted my life to — often have a negative reaction to my advice. And it’s always the same exact story.
I’ll post something really positive about finding a quality, trustworthy man who makes a consistent effort to make you feel safe, heard and understood…
Within seconds, I receive comments like:
“Men are pigs!”
“You can’t trust guys at all!”
“There’s no such thing as unconditional love!”
As a trustworthy guy, a happily married man, and a dating coach who has helped thousands of women find love, I tend to take such false statements personally.
But I shouldn’t.
I should know that these women are in pain, that they don’t mean what they say, that they’re just venting and looking for support.
Hell, it’s even a relationship cliché: “Don’t try to fix her. Just listen to her.”
But do I listen? No.
I’m a guy. I try to fix.
I point out rationally that their statements are untrue. That there are plenty of trustworthy men. That there are millions of happy couples. That it’s one thing to feel hurt; it’s quite another to believe that one entire gender is so bad that no couples in the world are actually happy.
Technically, I’m “right.” But it doesn’t matter.
The second I contradict the narrative that men are scumbags, I have revealed myself to be part of the problem: just another patronizing guy who doesn’t understand women.
Talk about the definition of insanity!
So from one flawed human being to another: I am always open to learning what I can do better to get different results, and I hope you are, too.
I’m approaching the end of my most recent Love U course, and it has been an amazing six-month journey. I learn so much from my clients each day and I continue to pour that knowledge back into my coaching for your benefit.
That’s why I strongly encourage you to take my quiz: “Do You Attract the Wrong Men?”
After listening closely to the experiences of 750 women who have gone through Love U, I have discovered telltale signs you wasted time on the wrong men.
When you’re done with my quiz, you will get an assessment as to whether you are Confident, Mildly Insecure, Insecure or Very Insecure.
Whatever the answer, just know that I’m not judging you whatsoever.
I can assure you: that change doesn’t involve giving up on men and love forever.
As a dating coach, my job is to hold up a mirror so you can see for yourself what’s working and what’s not.
Once you see evidence that men have repeatedly mistreated you, you’ll have all the impetus you need to make a big change in your life.
I can assure you: that change doesn’t involve giving up on men and love forever.
Rather, it means learning how to conduct yourself with confidence to repel the wrong men and attract the right ones. But before you can do that…
Click here to take my quiz and get your free assessment.
Warmest wishes and much love,
Your friend,
Evan
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