By Changing Nothing, Nothing Changes

I’m just emerging from my cocoon for a few minutes to tell you how grateful I am to have you as a reader.

The Why He Disappeared book launch has taken up most of my non-coaching time recently, and you have kept things warm on the blog by engaging in your normal level of intelligent discourse. You’re really amazing and it means a lot to me that you stick around. Whether you agree or disagree with everything I say, you’re part of a special community, the likes of which I don’t think exists anywhere else.

Next week, after the Why He Disappeared sale is over, I’ll go back to answering reader questions. Today, I just had a thought that needed expressing:

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.”

I’m not sure if that’s deep or if that’s so obvious that it’s silly, but I found myself saying it to a client on the phone the other day, when she was lamenting the state of her love life.

And although she reached out to me for coaching – and was enjoying our sessions – she wasn’t actually DOING anything differently. Her intention – to find love in 2010 – wasn’t backed up by her actions, which largely entailed complaining about the state of Match.com, dwelling on how unfair it is for 40 year old women, and refusing to initiate contact with men online because she preferred when men wrote to her. And that’s when it occurred to me:

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.”

I’ve written a lot about the male-female dynamic over the years and have been explicit in my search for truth and fairness. I don’t pick on women, I don’t defend men. I try to point out what works, what doesn’t, and what shifts you can make to forge healthier relationships with the opposite sex.

I try to point out what works, what doesn’t, and what shifts you can make to forge healthier relationships with the opposite sex.

If you like most of what I do here, you’re REALLY going to like what I’ve compiled in Why He Disappeared.

Right now, I’m having a special offer, good through Sunday, which gives you the 133 page eBook, the 2 1/2 hour audio, the bonus Why He Disappeared Online eBook and audio, two hour-long interviews with me giving away some priceless dating advice, and a recording of a teleseminar where I answer 100 women’s relationship questions.

I’m so confident you’ll get value out of it, that I’m offering a 100% no-questions-asked money-back guarantee if you’re not completely satisfied that you’ve learned something useful about men, dating, and relationships. The bonuses that come with the book will be GONE by Sunday, so if you like reading this blog, act now.

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Remember, by changing nothing, nothing changes.

If you’ve been reading this blog for a long time, but your love life remains in the same place, I highly recommend taking action.

Stay tuned for more – plus the return of reader questions – next week.

Many thanks and much love,

Evan