Green Flags to Look Out for on a Dating Profile

There are always horror stories about bad online dates and misleading dating profiles. I’m a big believer that like attracts like, so if you are always looking for what is wrong, well there is a high chance you attract precisely that. But what if we focused on the positive? 

What if we made a conscious effort to look for the good qualities we want in potential matches? That’s where “green flags” come in – these are the positive qualities and attributes to look for on a dating profile that indicates a potential match might be a good catch. Keep reading to discover some green flags to look out for!

1. Honesty and Openness

The most important qualities to look for on a dating profile are honesty and openness. Does their profile photo really look like them? Or is it a photo from 10 years ago? Are they being honest about who they really are?

Also, the level of information someone provides in their bio says a lot about their investment towards online dating. Is there nothing written in their bio? Or do they paint a picture of their personality along with what they are looking for in a partner? All of these different facets can share the level of readiness they have for a relationship. 

Relationships are built on trust, and it’s impossible to trust someone who is not upfront about themselves or their intentions. Look for profiles where people are willing to be candid and genuine and who value real connections.

2. Emphasis on Shared Values

What people write about themselves really does matter. Do all the sentences in their profile start with “I” statements? Or are they sharing important values of what they are looking for in a relationship? 

Most singles make the mistake and only talk about themselves. Online dating is about finding a partner, so the profiles that share specifics about their ideal partner and what they are looking for are a great green flag sign. 

Pay attention to see if they prioritize kindness, generosity, and authenticity over superficial things like looks or status. Also, look for someone who is clear about sharing their own values and can express them through their dating profile. It shows their ability to clearly communicate their needs, which is a very important relationship skill. 

Want to know the signs that you found a keeper? Check out this video I made. (Article continued below).

3. Positive Attitude

Positivity is contagious – and so is negativity. When you’re looking at dating profiles, take note of the general tone that people are setting. Are they generally upbeat, optimistic, and energetic? Do they seem excited to meet new people? 

Or are they bitter, jaded, and pessimistic? Some singles make a long list of what they are not looking for; this comes off as bitter and jaded.  Avoid people who put statements like “If you are drama, don’t write me.” That is a sign of a negative person. 

Of course, it’s natural to be cautious when you’re dating – but someone who is chronically negative can come across as bitter and might ultimately bring you down with them.

4. Willingness to Communicate

Great communication is key to any successful relationship. Look for profiles where people emphasize the importance of communication and are willing to put in the effort to make it work. 

Do they mention things like active listening or conflict resolution? Do they seem open to feedback and willing to be vulnerable? How are your interactions online? 

Are they asking you questions and curious about getting to know you personally? The back-and-forth conversation can really show you if a person has good communication skills at the get-go. These are all positive indicators that someone is serious about building a healthy and thriving relationship.

Finding a great match online can happen for you. After all, I met my husband online and so have many of my clients. It’s important that you focus on what you “do want” while searching rather than fearing what you don’t want. These “green flags” can help you identify the right matches for you and weed out those that might not work. 

Remember, it’s not just about finding someone who looks good on paper – it’s about finding someone who is truly compatible with you. If you’re struggling with online dating, I’m here to help. Schedule a Free Relationship Readiness Review with me here.