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Let’s just say there are four states of being:
Happily Single, Unhappily Single, Happily Coupled, and Unhappily Coupled.
If we were to rank them, from worst to best, I think most people would conclude:
Worst: Unhappily Single/Unhappily Coupled
Middle: Happily Single
Best: Happily Coupled
While we can argue about whether it’s better to be miserable alone or miserable with a partner, we can’t debate two things:
Whether it’s better to be happy than unhappy.
Whether it’s better to be in love or alone.
The jury is in. The tribe has spoken.
Pretty much all of us would rather share a fun, passionate, safe, stable, long-term relationship than to just be happy alone with our work, friends, pets and hobbies.
Pretty much all of us would rather share a fun, passionate, safe, stable, long-term relationship than to just be happy alone with our work, friends, pets and hobbies.
There’s nothing really controversial about this idea until you start to dig into it and see how we don’t necessarily live our lives according to this calculus. To wit:
If Happily Coupled is better than Happily Single, why do you try to convince yourself that you’re actually happier alone?
Take a second. Think about it.
If you’ve ever told yourself the lie that you’d rather be alone, what you’re REALLY stating is that you’d rather be Happily Single than Unhappily Coupled.
What you haven’t done is consider the third choice: Happily Coupled!
Interesting, isn’t it?
Basically, if you — like the rest of us — have experienced nothing but failure in the realm of dating and relationships, your mind takes a shortcut: in order to avoid the pain of getting heartbroken again, you don’t even consider the possibility that you can create an easy, joyous relationship.
You create a false dichotomy between being alone and getting devastated, when the third choice — Happily Coupled – is actually the most desirable outcome.
In other words, you live your entire life in fear of the worst-case scenario, and therefore, handicap your ability to achieve the best-case scenario.
Not anymore.
After hearing thousands of women complain how there are no good guys, how men only want one thing, how impossible it is to find a quality relationship-oriented man, I created an entire program around one question: why you should believe in love.
Believe in Love is laid out in 7 easy steps:
1. Let Go of Your Past
2. Set Realistic Expectations
3. Overcome Negativity
4. Defeat Your Fear of Failure
5. Reframe Your False Beliefs
6. Carry Yourself with Confidence
7. Take Action Now
Each step is around thirty pages long and comes with a few short exercises to help you rewire your mind and get all the tools you need to create lasting love.
Wait — Reading? Exercises? Tools? Why so much work? You just want Mr. Right to knock on your door with a diamond ring — to get happily married without any dating, risk, time or emotional vulnerability.
Sorry, but that’s not how it works.
Praying for a man will not deliver you a man. God isn’t Federal Express.
Not looking for love means only that you will not find love.
No dates means no opportunities for you to make a lasting connection.
Focusing all your attention on work, travel, family, and hobbies means only that you’ll reach the very middle of human happiness: happily single.
Which is to say that until you Believe in Love, you will never be Happily Coupled.
You will never achieve your peak happiness.
You will never have your husband greet you with an egg white omelet and fresh-squeezed orange juice on Saturday.
You will never have your husband surprise you with a weekend away in Vegas and two tickets to Cirque du Soleil.
You deserve to be that happy, but it won’t happen if you convince yourself that your only choices are to be unhappily coupled or single forever.
You will never have your husband comfort you after a hard day at work in which he listens to you vent, draws you a warm bath, and hands you a glass of red wine.
You will never have your husband make you laugh until your sides split while you’re driving to buy groceries for your dinner party.
You will never have your husband give you three screaming orgasms and fall asleep spooning you until the following morning.
You will never have your husband provide you with love, support, and companionship that good men routinely give their wives — a date to every wedding, a shoulder to cry on for every funeral, a best friend for everything in between.
In short, you will never reach the heights of what’s possible in life.
You deserve to be that happy, but it won’t happen if you convince yourself that your only choices are to be unhappily coupled or single forever.
There is a third way — a better way to live life — and I’m going to help you get there.
To celebrate Valentine’s Day, this week I am offering you my favorite program, “Believe in Love — 7 Steps to Letting Go of the Past, Embracing the Present and Dating with Confidence,” for 50% off of the regular $147 price.
Just click here, put in promo code VDAY2016 during checkout, and enjoy having your whole world turned around in less than a week.
Believe in Love contains an eBook, a workbook, an audio, three value-added bonuses and a 90-day 100% money-back guarantee.
This sale only lasts through Sunday, February 14th at 11:59pm PST so act now.
I can’t wait to hear how much better you feel when you’ve gone through my 7 steps and can say, with a straight face, how much more confident you feel about your relationship prospects.
Warmest wishes and much love,
Your friend,
Evan
P.S. Elizabeth is a former client who sent me this email just this morning. I think it’s a perfect reminder of why you need to “Believe in Love.”
I so enjoyed reading all of your materials. Even at the time, I recognized I was learning a lot, and more importantly, gaining a new perspective on how to approach dating again after my 15-year marriage ended. I had to kiss a few more frogs that year, but don’t worry – there is a happy ending to this story!
Almost exactly two years later, I met a wonderful guy on Match by following what I learned in your programs. He pursued me from the start, has always treated me wonderfully, and very quickly he became my best friend and the love of my life. And almost exactly three years later, I am writing to say that we are engaged to be married in July of this year. I have others to thank, of course, including good friends who gave good advice.
But Evan, I really feel you deserve the largest share of the thanks for creating and maintaining a truly wonderful program that helps us get out of our own way so we can actually enjoy dating and relationships again. I especially appreciate how you have made your materials accessible to people from all walks of life so there’s something available for everyone who is open to learning.
So now I finally understand what you have said about how worthwhile it is to keep trying and never give up on finding love. If this 50 year-old divorced woman can do it (and I know you work with people of all ages) then pretty much anyone else can do it to, if they set their minds to it.
Anyway, I hope this email reaches you, with my sincere thanks and best wishes for health and happiness to you and your lovely family,
Elizabeth
This is what happens when you Believe in Love.
Click here to learn more and don’t forget to put in VDAY2016 on the checkout page to get 50% off.
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