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This can lead the child to lose touch with their own wants and needs – with their authentic self – which then leads to underlying feelings of worthlessness, uncertainty, and self-alienation in adulthood.
Extreme versions of this pattern are known as parentification, but mild to moderate versions are surprisingly common. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can heal from the effects of these difficult early experiences and rediscover who we truly are.
This material was so eye-opening for me, and it’s one of my favorite episodes we’ve ever produced.
Want to learn more? Check out Alice Miller’s classic The Drama of the Gifted Child.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:55: Distinction between parentification and the gifted child
5:05: Serving a psychological function – what is the “gift” we’re talking about?
7:50: Self-definition vs. defining yourself through relationship
10:30: Examples of generational patterns
16:45: Accumulation of subtle forms of parentification over time
21:55: Patterns of interaction, and differentiation
24:00: Summary of material so far
27:00: “The manic defense against depression”
30:30: What can people do?
35:00: Love, aspiration, and power in parenting styles
40:20: Creating a coherent (and balanced) narrative
43:30: Seductive narratives, grief not shame, claiming your nature
51:25: What emotions were you permitted?
53:35: Recap
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