3 IMPORTANT Over 50’s Dating Questions . . . Answered
Chances are you never thought you’d be dating as a woman in her 50’s, 60’s or 70’s. Right?
Dating was for young people.
In fact, for most of us, that was the last time we went on a date.
Yet, here you are today having to use a skill you haven’t used in eons.
Navigating the dating world isn’t always easy.
In fact, it can be quite hard to figure out what really works and that’s why today I want to answer 5 of the most important dating questions I’m often asked about dating in your 50’s, 60’s and 70’s.
Question #1 – I want a man to be my best friend. Is that possible?
Communication with a man isn’t the same as it is with your girlfriends.
Emotionally healthy men will be your best friend by keeping you safe, protected and provided for.
He will do his best to fix anything that makes your life easier for you.
To a man, his actions speak far louder than his words.
His actions are how he shows you he loves you.
As women, we love talking because the same hormone that gives you an orgasm is the same one that is released when you talk.
It’s why women verbally process everything. It feels good.
Men on the other hand preserve their words and can be quiet at times.
Not talking about life the way you would with your friends doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
He just doesn’t want to get involved in long conversations about things he has no interest in.
When you share involved and complicated stories about your friend’s and their families, a man can’t keep track of the point you are trying to make.
Unless it’s about you and taking care of you in some way, his eyes glaze over.
This is why it’s so important to have girlfriends who will happily process anything with you over your favorite martini or glass of wine.
Question #2 – Do I have to have chemistry right away to know if he’s the one for me?
What’s the most important thing you look for when you first meet a man?
Is it chemistry or attraction?
If you said, “yes” than you aren’t alone.
Many women use chemistry as the basis for knowing whether or not a man is the right one for them.
Chemistry is amazing but it isn’t sustainable.
Without a friendship, no matter how much chemistry you have, the relationship can’t stand up to the test of time.
Many of my clients have not had immediate chemistry with their guy.
They thought he was cute but the zing was not there.
But their guy seemed really nice so when he asked them out again, they said yes.
They ended up creating an amazing friendship and over time the chemistry kicked in.
If they had used immediate chemistry as the barometer for deciding if he was the one, they’d have missed a really great guy and a really great relationship with someone who absolutely loves and adores them.
Do yourself a favor . . . if a man is nice, give him a chance.
It may take a couple of dates for the chemistry to kick in.
As you’re waiting you might find out that you’re dating a really good man.
Question #3 – I always see a man’s potential even when he doesn’t. Is it ok to give him tips and advice to bring out the best in him?
THIS IS A SOLID NO!!!!!!
One of men’s biggest pet peeves is about women who are always trying to change them whether it’s the clothes they wear, the food they eat or how they do their job.
One of the coolest things about emotionally healthy men is they love you exactly how you are.
That’s because men fall in love with the real you.
But women fall in love with a man’s potential then they try to fix him up to be his best.
If you don’t like who a man the best thing you can do for you and for him, is to let him go and find a man you can love for exactly who he is.
I’m so grateful to have found Lisa Copeland and her Love After 50 coaching program. The insights I learned about how men think and what they are looking for has helped me to find the man of my dreams so much faster than I thought possible! We have been dating exclusively for over 6 months now, and have definitely fallen in love with one another! I am so grateful to have written the Quality Man Template, which was the key tool to helping me realize that this man is the one I have been looking for all my life. Thank you, Lisa for all you have taught me! Hugs and kisses and best wishes to you!
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