Let’s face it: As much as you may want a good guy in your life, finding him as a single woman dating in her 50’s, 60’s and 70’s poses its own set of challenges…challenges that can seem daunting at times.
If you’re like most women this age, you probably didn’t date much when you were younger.
In fact, the majority of relationships happened as a result of just hanging out with the opposite sex in class, at lunch or at youth events you were both involved with.
I’d be pretty safe saying you didn’t expect to be divorced and single trying to date at this time in your life, did you?
Since divorce judges don’t hand you a dating rulebook as you leave the courtroom, you’re left to fend for yourself, figuring dating out on your own.
You find yourself frustrated and sometimes wanting to just give up on your dreams of finding a good guy to share your life with.
Instead of going after what you want, you talk yourself into being satisfied living a life filled with kids and grandchildren, friends or activities you like.
It doesn’t have to be this way. You can have a good man in your life to share all of this with you!
Dating can be fun and you can get a good guy, especially when you have a plan in place for meeting great men.
Part of the plan is about understanding the mistakes you could be making in over 50’s dating that are keeping you feeling challenged and so alone.
Lisa, Thanks to your group program, I am communicating with multiple men now on dating sites. Most importantly, I am having fun! The fact that this is a process and I have a plan seems to have clicked which has greatly reduced my frustration. I know that meeting a quality man will be so worth the time and energy that I have been putting in. Thank you for all the strategies and the support! Jolene, Mn.
Mistake #1. Believing when the time is right, A GOOD GUY will just show up in your life.
Wouldn’t it be awesome if finding a good guy really happened this way?
Well, it can but first you must put yourself in situations where he can find you.
What this means is you’ll need to work the dating system so you can find him and he can find you.
Make sure you’re on dating sites that are the right fit for you and while you’re at it, turn your friends into Dating Fairy Godmothers who can fix you up.
If you like the idea of finding men “organically,” you’ll want to be in social situations where over 50’s men congregate and you’ll need to know how to approach them when you’re interested.
In The Fun Path to Mr. Right Program, you can learn the secrets for where to meet quality men, how to get them to notice you and exactly what to say once they do.
Mistake #2. Believing you’ll just know he’s the RIGHT GUY when he shows up.
Teenage girls love hanging out with boys.
Remember how much fun that was?
You didn’t feel the pressure to find “the one” on your first interaction together.
You spent time together at school or at work and you laughed and played as you experienced the things you loved in life.
You put in the time getting to know each other, often spending years together before deciding…Yes, I’d like to spend the rest of my life with this man.
Fast forward a few years…
Today, you go on a coffee date and before the coffee is finished, you’ve figured out whether or not he’s right for you.
You don’t play and you don’t just hang with guys as friends like you did when you were younger.
Here’s a secret for you . . .Knowing he’s “the one” on a first date rarely happens.
In fact, when you make such a fast decision, you often miss a lot of guys who would have made great friends to hang out with, or possible boyfriends if you’d given then the chance like you did when you were younger.
Next time when you meet a nice guy, spend some time playing and having fun, seeing how you might fit in each other’s lives.
Being around male energy – even when he’s just a friend – is a lot better than sitting at home alone every Saturday night.
Lisa, I am so grateful for your program. I have learned so much about my old self, and understand why relationships have been so hard for me to come by and maintain. I am nervous about going forward but so very hopeful because of your program and amazing support. This is my time. Kim, Wisconsin
Mistake #3. Giving up too quickly.
I’ve had women tell me that when five dates in a row didn’t work out, they wanted to quit dating. This is about the time they came to me frustrated and looking for help.
What I shared with them is that they’d created a picture of who a man was based on the words he wrote and the picture he posted online.
Having expectations before you meet sets you up for failure, especially when a guy turns out to be totally different than the way he portrayed himself online.
When this happens, you can end up feeling depressed and hopeless about ever finding your guy.
So here’s what you can do instead.
Go on future dates with the mind set of… I’m going to meet someone new and interesting today.
This will make dating far more fun for you.
Plus, it will keep you from making snap judgments about who you think a man is.
Persistence is the name of the game when it comes to dating.
Take breaks when you need to, but get back out there when you can because your guy is out there waiting for you to find him.
Lisa…There is no way I would have met my guy without you and your program. Before working with you my dating life was sparse. I was interested in dating but I had such bad luck with online dating I just didn’t want to go through that again. I came across your coaching program and decided that was exactly what I needed. I needed help and advice in navigating the dating world. Little did I know it not only got me my forever guy, it also helped me with my self esteem, confidence and most importantly, how to get a guy to bend over backwards to make me happy. Who knew? Lisa, I use your advice everyday in talking to men in general and they have all responded positively. I was already happy with your program overall and my guy is the bonus. I have spread the news from here to Spain that there is indeed a coach that knows what she is doing. I say sincerely and thank you, Lisa for changing my life. Big words but very true. Margaret, Texas
Believing in you!
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