3 Proven Ways for Attracting Your Mr. Right after 50
Today I want to talk to you about 3 ways to get yourself out of a dating rut and into the magical dating life you desire.
Often women come to work with me when they’ve hit a wall in their dating lives.
Things aren’t going well.
They aren’t meeting the guys they want to meet and even worse . . . no one is noticing them online or in the real world.
I want you to know this happens to every woman at sometime during their dating journey.
Believe me, I see it over and over again.
And when it happens, you start self doubting and blaming yourself because nothing you’re doing seems to be working anymore.
Or even worse, you GIVE UP!
Today, I want to share 3 TIPS to help you get out of your dating rut so you can get back into the dating world and have fun attracting a great guy into your life. Ready?
Step 1 is to realize that you’re not alone
When things aren’t going the way you think they should in your dating life, you start having thoughts like . . . “Everybody else is out there dating good guys. Or, the guys I want to date never contact me.”
You end up feeling like no one else is frustrated . . . that only you are struggling with dating.
Well, that’s simply not true.
As you know from Social Media, most people put only their best side on Facebook and Instagram.
They don’t share the pain they’re feeling.
Think about how many times you didn’t let anyone know when things weren’t going well.
I see it all the time ― women around the country, around the world― it happens to everyone.
Understand that even though it looks like everybody else is out there dating amazing men and you feel like the only one who isn’t . . . it’s not the case.
And have some compassion for yourself.
Dating is a journey not a destination.
It can take time.
Step 2 ― You want to build your confidence back up
When it feels like nothing is happening in your dating life, you start doubting your attractiveness to men.
To turn that around, you’ll want to have a plan for rebuilding your confidence.
Because confidence touches how you will get out there and talk to the men you want to date.
Confidence affects how you appear to men.
Confidence affects the men you want to be attracting.
Confidence affects everything about your dating life so it’s important that you keep your confidence really high.
I don’t mean acting superior, conceited or egotistical.
What you want is an inner knowing that you’re an amazing woman just as you are!
That’s why you’ve got to protect your confidence.
The way to do this sounds kind of funny, but it works.
I suggest creating a list of your amazing qualities . . . 10-15 about your physical self, 10-15 about your personality and 10-15 about what you’re good at and interested in.
Then every morning or every time you pass a mirror remind yourself of 2 or 3 of the qualities you love about you.
When you do, you’ll find you start liking the woman you see in the mirror every day.
Step 3 is that we have to get you off the dime by taking action!
If you stay at home thinking woe is me, or you sit around with friends complaining there are no good men out there to date . . . it might feel good in the moment but it doesn’t get you moving forward towards your dream.
Instead, focus on what you used to do that got you dates with good guys, that you’ve stopped doing?
Did you used to try different online dating sites but stopped when you got stuck?
Did you used to talk to men in the real world, then stopped because of the Pandemic?
Did you take classes about dating or get coaching then stopped using what you learned?
Notice what you used to do that you’re no longer doing and then do that again.
Your Assignment For Creating A Magical Over 50’s Dating Life
You can have all these great ideas but you do not get results from things you do not implement.
This is what I tell my clients all the time.
The difference between a successful person and a person who struggles is that the successful person will do what others aren’t willing to do.
This is part of the mindset that will get you out of your rut, past your obstacles and into the magical dating life you desire.
Take the 3 steps we just went through and put them to work cause who knows. . . if you do use them, by spring you could be in that magical relationship you’ve been wanting.
I can’t believe it but I’m in a GREAT RELATIONSHIP!
I started my journey with Lisa 9 months ago with little hope of finding a man who could be interested in me. Lisa helped me regain my self esteem and self confidence, helped me work through my feelings of anger, sadness, guilt and my fears which were preventing me from letting go of the past and from progressing on my new mission. I worked hard, her program was very useful in helping me define the type of man who would suit me best and bring me happiness. Here I am today in a great relationship! Many thanks Lisa for all your help!!!
Believing in you!
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