Are You Scaring Good Men Away after 50?
Have you ever gone out with a man where it felt like everything was going so smoothly and you’re having lots of fun getting to know each other?
Then out of nowhere, it feels like he ends the date for no reason at all.
You’re not sure what happened and that leads to second-guessing yourself, wondering if you did something wrong.
Truthfully, you might have without realizing it.
That’s why I want to share these 5 early dating behaviors you want to avoid and what you can do instead to keep a Quality Man around who you want to get to know better.
#1 Hiding Your Feminine Side
Today, you’re often expected to be a tigress in the office . . . yet a kitten at home.
If you’re going on a date at the end of a long day at work, it’s important to take a couple of minutes to make an emotional transition from work to dating.
If you don’t, you could easily end up directing a man to what you’d like him to do for you.
When you do this, it comes across from your masculine side and if the man you’re meeting is straight, he’s not looking for another man to be his partner in life.
He will move on to a woman who has a softer side.
#2 Bashing Your Ex on a First Date
Early in the dating game, a new man doesn’t want to hear how bitter and angry you may still be feeling about your ex.
To a man, this feels like 3 are on the date, not 2 and he feels he has to compete for better or worse with your ex to win you over.
It’s too much work for him and he will probably check out quickly.
If you’re having trouble getting over the pain from your last relationship, it’s a good idea to seek help from a professional before you begin dating again.
#3 Inquiring Mind’s Want to Know!
The quickest way to scare a man off is by asking lots of privacy-invading questions about his life at the beginning of the dating process.
Examples of these are . . .
“What time did you get up today?”
“What did you do last night?” or
“Where are you going?”
Men love the freedom to do as they please (as do we as women).
When a man feels like you’re keeping tabs on his activities, he’s start’s thinking you’re trying to take his freedom away and that you are going to try and control his life in some way.
This feels really scary to him!
When he’s ready, he’ll fill you in on his activities.
In the meantime, take this time to enjoy your own life instead of wanting to know so much about him.
#4 Being Too Attached at the Hip
Nothing scares a man off faster than a woman who wants to spend every waking hour of the day with him right after the meeting.
To a man, this appears as if you have no life of your own and that you’re looking to turn his life into yours.
After only one date, if you find yourself making plans for the two of you that stretch out over the next month, that’s going to be a problem.
Wanting too much of his time right away just makes you appear like a clingy and emotionally needy woman, which is scary to a man.
In reality, men are most attracted to a woman who is confident and independent and has a life of her own she brings to the dating table.
#5 Saying the “L” Word Too Soon
You might find yourself having warm feelings for a man you’ve just started dating and you end up using the words “I Love You” far too quickly.
It’s a good idea to keep this feeling to yourself until you’ve been dating for a while or until he says the “L” word first.
If you say it before he’s ready, you could find yourself right back in the dating pool again.
Now that you have these tips, you want to get out there and have fun dating as Maryanne did.
I’m so glad I became a member of Lisa’s Love after 50 Coaching Group because I needed help. I listened to the modules, came on the group calls, and using what I learned ended up meeting my guy. In the past, I would have passed him up if I hadn’t had my quality man template. I also learned so much about men and understanding who they are that has helped me be in a successful relationship. Lisa, you are just a wonderful coach. You unlocked the key for me about men that got me the amazing man I am now sharing my life with.
If you want help finding your guy, just click here, and let’s set up a time for us to talk in a complimentary session about how fun finding love after 50 can be for you.
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