This First Date Blunder Can Keep You from Finding Mr. Right

This First Date Blunder Can Keep You From Finding Mr. Right

Here’s something interesting I bet you haven’t thought about when it comes to dating after 50.

As a single woman in the second half of life, you get to choose how YOU want a man to fit into your life.

This is very different from the way you dated when you were in your 20’s and 30’s.

Back then, you looked for men to mate and have children with.

Today as a single woman over 50, you can date just for fun and men can fit into your life as your friend, your lover, your boyfriend, or even as your husband.

Yet if you’re like most women, dating isn’t fun.

You feel like the clock is ticking.

You start thinking you aren’t getting any younger.

And you worry about whether or not men will even like you at this age. (Men do!)

So you go on a date and start frantically quizzing the new man you’re meeting.

You’re desperately trying to figure out whether he’s the one before you’ve finished a cup of coffee instead of enjoying the journey of attracting, meeting, and getting to know a new man.

I call this way of high-pressure dating . . . Dating to Mate. 

I’d like to suggest another way to experience dating that is far more fun and gives you more opportunities to enjoy your experiences with men. It’s called. . .  Dating to Date.

Here’s how it works.

Imagine three curtains in front of you.

Curtain #3 is the Relationship Curtain where the man and the relationship you want reside.

Unfortunately, this is the place where most women start out on a meet and greet.

Jumping right into the relationship curtain creates frustration because it’s hard to figure out whether or not someone is perfect for you in 15 minutes.

A better place to start is in Curtain #1, the Exploration Curtain.

This is where you go on dates with the intention of deciding how a man might fit into your life and into your future.

Your energy is relaxed and low-key as you get to know someone new and interesting. (Just be sure to keep a notebook about each one so you don’t get them all mixed up)

This is an empowering way to enjoy your over 50’s dating journey.

Curtain #2 is the Exclusive Curtain.

You’ve found someone you really like and the two of you decide to make your relationship exclusive.

You hang out, have fun and enjoy each other’s company as you get to know one another.

If the relationship isn’t working in Curtain #2, you go back to Curtain #1 and you start the process again of going on dates getting to know someone new and interesting.

If Curtain #2 does work, you head to Curtain #3 where you’ll figure out the type of committed relationship you both want.

Can you see how dating in Curtain #3, the Relationship Curtain on a 1st date is a HUGE SET UP FOR FAILURE at finding the right man for you?

So many of my clients have told me this progression of dating has changed their lives and made dating far more fun and easier.

I know it can be for you too. Give it a try and let me know how it works for you.

Here’s how my client Mindy’s love life changed after working with me.

With Lisa’s guidance and coaching, I was able to learn what had been holding me back from finding the right man for me.  I am now in a 6-month relationship with a wonderful man who is different than any man I have ever dated in my life, and different than any of the men I have dated since my divorce. He checks all of my boxes on my Quality Man Template!!!

This program is about so much more than dating!  It is like therapy and coaching all rolled into one!  It is the information we were never taught as young women and needed so desperately.  I really can’t say enough!  An amazing investment in yourself! I’m excited to see my love live play out!

Believing in you!

Big hugs ~

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