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What are your upcoming New Year’s Resolutions?
“Part of what makes life meaningful are the goals we strive to achieve.” – Dr.John Gottman, 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work
2021 was one of the longest years yet. It has been a year for the books. So much has happened and so much has changed, including perspectives, outlooks on life, and hopes and dreams.
With a new year upon us, many of us, myself included, see it as a chance to recover from the chaos of 2021. We want to start 2022 with new goals, dreams, ideas.
These may be overcoming your attachment insecurity and getting out of debt. Your partner may have goals such as writing a book and eating healthier.
Underneath every goal and dream lie the secrets to what is meaningful. Goals offer insights into who we are and who we want to become.
Sadly, many of us do not talk about our dreams with the most significant person in our life.
Opening up about your goals and dreams can profoundly increase the intimacy in your relationship. Not only will you learn something new about each other, but you can also team up to create shared dreams or support each other in achieving independent dreams.
Here are 10 open-ended questions to ask each other about your 2022 New Years Resolutions:
- If 2022 was your best year yet, what would have to happen?
- If you could only achieve one of your New Year’s resolutions, which one would you choose? Why is this one so important to you? Is there a deeper purpose to this goal?
- How might I be able to support you in achieving your New Year’s resolutions?
- What challenges do you think you might face as you start working towards this resolution? What might we need to do differently so you can achieve this?
- What New Year’s resolutions do you have for our relationship?
- What is one thing you’d like to do more in our relationship? What needs to change so we can do this more often?
- How can we team up together to achieve our New Year’s resolutions, even if some of them might be different? (Hint: Brainstorm and listen to understand, then problem-solve.)
- What shared goals should we create this year? Why is this goal meaningful to you?
- What do you think is going to be our biggest challenge this year?
- What is one relationship habit you want to develop this year?
Take your time asking these questions.
With the new year starting, it’s also a great time for reflection. Here are some more questions to build deeper intimacy (or in my cheesy language: into-me-I-let-you-see) when reflecting on 2021:
- What went well this year for you? Personally, professionally, and relationally (romantic relationship, friendships, and family)?
- What didn’t go so well? What challenges did you face?
- What challenges did you overcome in 2021? How did you celebrate this?
- What unlived dreams did you make progress on in 2021? How does it feel to recognize this?
- What major goals did you accomplish in 2021? What was so meaningful about these goals?
- What obstacles did we overcome as a couple? Was there anything in particular that I supported you on?
- Share one thing your partner did over the past year that was deeply meaningful for you.
- What was your biggest life lesson in 2021? Why does this lesson stand out for you?
- What was your favorite memory for 2021? What is so meaningful about this memory?
- If you could summarize 2021 into a sentence or a single word, what would you say?
Many of us often struggle to open up about our challenges and our dreams. I know I used to. Use the new year as a new opportunity to build a deeper connection with one another.
Happy New Year.
With love,
Kyle Benson
P.S. I encourage you to utilize my free guide “Traveling Into Your Partner’s Inner World” to get to know your partner on an even deeper and more meaningful level!
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